I see both in codependency forums as well as self-help articles and books, in strategies to dealing with narcissists and others. No contact is considered one very valid, sometimes necessary strategy to healing from codependency and bettering your life. But is it? Codependent relationships at their heart are addictive relationships. The other person in the relationship is utilized to fill up a vast amount of holes in our own person, holes were self-respect should be, holes whe
I was watching the documentary "Steve Jobs: The Man in the Machine" yesterday, and it made me realize something. I've been studying narcissism and codependency for a while now, their dynamics, how they are formed, their symptoms, how they can be cured on an individual level, and its effects on a social level. I don't consider myself an expert, but I have enough information to write several books on this topic. Yet something has been evading me all this time. No matter how muc
I narcisisti sono le persone che vivono con le piu' dolorose credenze al mondo. Essi si sono formati da una privazione quasi totale d'amore durante l'infanzia. Ricordiamoci che per un bambino l'amore del genitore equivale alla vita stessa, poiche' il bambino e' totalmente dipendente e vulnerabile, e la sua vita dipende da esso. Qualunque tipo di privazione d'amore, affetto, attenzioni, validazioni, bisogni, desideri, in giovane eta' quindi hanno un'effetto traumatico. Nel cas
Ever since I learned to manifest my own thoughts, thanks to spirituality 301, my life has become rather drastic and intense, both in a positive and negative way. The advantage of being able to manifest your thoughts directly is that you can create what you desire.. if you don't have unconscious blocks preventing you to that is. On the flip side, this also means that you manifest your negative thoughts and shadows just as easily, leading to potentially unpleasant situations th
In physics, no particle exists without its anti-particle. No force can be created without creating an equal and opposite force. According to the ying-yang philosophy the same principle applies to everything in life. In a world of contrast nothing can exist without its opposite: there can't be love without fear, joy without sadness, wealth without poverty. Behind every happyness there is suffering, behind every success there is failure, behind every good there is bad, every li
So there are three main phases in spiritual growth. The first phase is where you learn to control your thoughts, you see how your thoughts create your reality, and it is all about positive focus and meditation. This phase is absolutely necessary, for the second phase, but not sufficient on its own. The second phase is where you dive deep into the shadows, you welcome all kinds of emotions and let them take you to places, and you allow the negative parts of you to take over. T
Vi propongo un'idea poco consona, ma probabilmente proprio per questo efficacie. Avete presente quando state male, quando siete in profonda sofferenza, quando siete feriti (si, se siete qui lo avete bene presente purtroppo). Cosa facciamo in queste circostanze? Qual'e' l'approccio piu' comune? Di solito, si tende a scappare. Si cerca di distrarsi dal dolore. Si usano verita' spirituali per sminuire l'esperienza scappando nel positivo. Si sopprime cio' che si sente. Ci si butt
Chi e' stato vittima di un narcisista sa di cosa sto parlando. Le subdole ed manovrate strategie di manipolazioni, degne di un professionista, portano chi ne e' vittima a credere l'incredibile, a dare il non "dabile", fino a quando la realta' ci colpisce in uno shock: era tutta una recita, era tutta una finzione.
Come' e' possibile che persone intelligenti, dotate di intuito e compassione, diventino complici di tali inganni, che diventino partecipi in queste recite? La risp
Everywhere in the news, political leaders, economists, industry leaders and even scientists stress "growth" as a factor of well being and success in our society. We want to grow our companies, our production, our consumption, and we go as far as measure the success of a country based on its GDP. Yet it doesn't require a rocket scientist to see that this view point is, to say the least, insane. In a world that is limited in its resources, space, and energy, continuous growth c
Recently an article was published(*), about a research study that supported the idea that free will may be an illusion. To me it is surprising that we need scientific evidence do demonstrate something that seems so logical. If you don't see what I mean, please follow my argument.
Is free will an illusion? To show logically that it is, I will proceed with a contradiction. Let's start by assuming that it is not. Therefore, according to the definition of free will, it means th